Eastleigh ex-swingers speak out about 'scary' websites

Elvis Sharps, 43, and his partner Tracy Doncaster say they were subject to death threats and derogatory comments.

The pair started swinging – openly having a sexual relationship with other people – 12 years ago.

But the Chandler’s Ford couple are now calling for websites and clubs to be closed down.

Elvis said: “We started swinging because we wanted to add more excitement to our relationship, and we wanted to make friends too.

“We got a lot of abuse from the first time we did it, with people calling us fat, saying we look like mother and son.

“People were judging us by our looks.

“We met one couple about three times, but they turned against us for no reason.

“We stopped swinging in January 2023 because things got so bad.”

Tracy is keen to dispel the myth that the world of swinging is fun and accepting.

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The 55-year-old said: “Behind the scenes, it’s not as pretty a picture as people make it out to be. People can be nasty.

“My advice would be to people – don’t do it, especially if you are plus size.

“I wish we never started it, and I am glad we are out of it all.

“We have a really good relationship, and we don’t need anybody else.”

Elvis and Tracy are now directing their efforts towards advocating for the closure of various swinging sites.

The pair say there are not enough security checks, meaning people of any age can join.

Elvis said: “We want to warn people of the dangers of swinging and dogging – the drama, the drugs, it all happens.

“There’s a whole other side to swinging and dogging; we have been abused and singled out.

“There are strange people on these sites too, and our opinion is that they should be shut down and not allowed to continue.

“Anybody can join them, and they don’t check people’s ages. It’s very scary."

Since giving up the swinging lifestyle, the pair are happier than ever - and even plan to tie the knot.

Elvis said: "We are stronger in our relationship and we are planning on getting married.”