Every word Southampton manager Martin said after Man United

Is it another match where you started really well but didn't get anything out of it?

RM: Yeah, I don't think we just started really well. I thought we played really well for 30-odd minutes. 

I thought we were the team that looked most likely to score. I loved the performance, the aggression, the intensity in it. Some football we played was great. 

We didn't make the most of it and then we missed a penalty and it completely changed the energy of the whole game, really.

The whole stadium, which is understandable. We didn't respond well enough to that and in that moment United took some control and capitalised on that.

We conceded two terrible goals from set plays. It's the only thing I'm really angry about. The lads are trying so hard, giving everything they've got. 

Some brilliant moments need to come to more, for sure. The moments we have in their box in the first half, if we have their players...

I'm pretty sure it's a goal because they have some really top talent. Unlock that last little bit and defend set plays properly and it's a different game.

You get to half-time and we can maybe re-energise the players a bit. The second half, both teams were wrestling, really. 

They had some good moments. They've got some top players. We had a lot of guys at the top end of the pitch that were tired. 

Tyler Dibling on his first league start got cramp and there were a few boos when I took him off. I didn't want to take him off either but he was struggling.

Ben Brereton Diaz travelled back from Chile and looked tired. Cameron Archer's first start, the penalty missed took a lot of energy out of him.

Matty Fernandes probably stayed on the pitch a bit longer than we would have hoped for because he's been away and not played yet either from the start.

We make four changes and I like the look of the team again. I thought there was some energy back and then we had Jack Stephens sent off.

After that, it's damage limitation against a team with that talent. I thought we did quite well to limit them and then we conceded in the 96th minute.

You did not have a single shot after the penalty attempt, how big a worry is that?

RM: I just said to you, yeah, the penalty changed the game completely.

Why has that moment made such a big impact on your team?

RM: Because we haven't won. I think it's really common sense why it would make a big impact in the game.

We haven't won, then conceded two goals before half-time, we're playing against a team with an incredible level of talent and then the players got tired.

We were trying to wrestle control and then we have a man sent off. I literally just listed all the reasons to you.

I can't find a record of Archer taking a penalty while Brereton Diaz has taken and scored seven - what was the discussion behind choosing the penalty taker?

RM: Ben's quite a bit older than Cam. We've had a chat about it. Cam's practised a lot over the last two weeks whilst he's been here and Ben hasn't.

He's done brilliantly with them. He's a number nine and at some point will want to take penalties. He felt really confident to take one and Ben was happy. 

One of those things, if he scores, he's off and away. But he didn't so it's going to get questioned. It's on me and the decision we made and it's the wrong one.

Tyler Dibling was such a big positive today, what did you make of him?

RM: There were loads of positives, mate. Loads. He was one of many, but he's an outstanding footballer. 

I just don't want to put too much pressure on him too early, but he's going to be a really top player if he keeps listening and keeps working how he is.

The mentality in the last year, how much he's grown, has been amazing. He needs to continue to do that and he will give us moments that other people can't.

What was your take on the Stephens red card and subsequent ban?

RM: The only thing I was annoyed about was the process of the fourth official and the ref looking at each other for ages and asking if they would give it.

So that was my only frustration. I felt maybe he missed him during the game, but I think he's made contact, so it is what it is.

The last time Southampton were promoted they lost their first four matches but went on to finish 14th - do you believe that is possible again?

RM: Yeah, it's four games in and the lads have had so many... I'm trying not to be annoyed if you ask me if I think that's possible still, but I'm feeling annoyed. 

So I will let my annoyance go and I'll answer it. Yeah, we're four games in, mate. And the lads have felt so many moments in the first four games.

They should feel that they can really impact the league in a really good way and not just survive and not just fight every single week to show what they can do. 

I said to them I played in it for five seasons and I didn't have any moments really sustained of what they've had already in four games.

If that doesn't give them any belief, then we will be fighting, but I think they feel it. Having people like Adam Lallana and Aaron Ramsdale in there helps.

They have been at different clubs in the Premier League and to reinforce that message after the game is really important, I think.

So they've just got to keep believing, being brave and learning through the pain, because we're having a bit of pain, and keep reinforcing the good stuff.

If they stick with it the same way as we did last year, it's no different just because it's the Premier League, in the Championship we had four defeats last year.

Yes, the level of competition and all that stuff, but I'd argue we've had as many moments now as we did at this stage last season.

I'm much happier this season with the level of performance than I was at this stage last season. We just need to stick with it.

Do you think the delay in taking the penalty was a factor in it being missed?

RM: I think the VAR needed to look if it was inside or outside the box, but I looked at it once on the iPad and could tell it was inside the box.

It is what it is. It's part of the game now. Maybe Cam would put it as a reason he misses but it is what it is. It's happened and we have to move on.

Are you happy to continue with Archer taking penalties? 

RM: I don't think Ben would be now because he maybe would want it. I don't know. We'll have to wait and see if Cam's on the pitch. We'll talk about it. 

I think he played really well, Cam, so it's disappointing for him. But Adam Armstrong takes it if he's on the pitch, he's our penalty taker, but he wasn't.

Whenever anyone missed in the teams I played in, unless it was Grant Holt or Wes Hoolahan, because he bullied everyone, he would take the next one again.

But every other team I played in if you missed, it goes to the next one who wants it. So, yeah, we'll have to wait and see.

When did you make the decision to start Dibling for the first time in this match? 

RM: Straight after the Brentford game, yeah. Straight after our last game. Then he was away with England, so it was difficult. 

He probably deserved to play before today because he was outstanding in pre-season. He can be flexible in terms of position.

There was a level of loyalty in the first games to feel our way in and trust in other players but he deserved to play and I thought he was brilliant. 

Did Dibling's performance surprise you?

RM: No, not one bit. Not one bit. I'm probably his biggest fan, but also really critical of him, hopefully in a positive way.

He's grown so much in the last year as a person. It's been great to see. I've enjoyed watching that. His biggest strength is nothing phases him at all.

Nothing, not one bit. Not coming up to training for the first time, not getting on to the pitch for the first time, not starting his first Premier League game.

He has a beautiful mentality that if you're going to be a top player, you need. He has that potential but needs to keep learning - he has a lot to learn. 

The guys trust him and I think they all understand how special he can be.

On what you said about the red card, which official made the decision to send him off?

RM: Gavin Ward made the decision, yeah. The fourth official. The comment was, 'I would'. So it's just like, we'll just say it's a red card. 

That's the only thing annoying me. It shouldn't even annoy me. It's fine. I thought he reffed it well. They're good guys and it's a tough job.

Do you feel you need the crowd to come with you and keep the energy up with the team?

RM: I thought the crowd were really good, even at the end, considering we've lost four games. But I thought they were brilliant.

The penalty miss took the energy out a bit and then we didn't have a moment to regain that. They had a moment and that completely deflated everyone.

Even talking to my staff, they felt it. We have to learn from that and try and manage ourselves back into the game when we have a setback like that.

We had such a young team on the pitch today so I think it's inevitable it would affect them in some way. They'll be better for it. 

But unfortunately when you're trying to grow and improve and you're young, you have to learn through pain. And this was a bit of that.

What did you make of Lesley Ugochukwu on his first league start for you? 

RM: Yeah, I thought he was good. I thought he was good. I think he'll get better and better.

I think he's understanding what we want and what we require from him will continue to grow. So yeah, I thought he was good. I thought he was good. 

He got a bit tired as well. He'd been injured for a while at Chelsea last season and then he came back and was knackered after 60 minutes against Cardiff. 

Being away on international although he didn't play, being away is different, your routine, the way you train. He did well and he's going to be really good.

A big cheer for Ross Stewart when he got on as well - pleasing to see?

RM:  Yeah, I thought he was great. I'm really pleased. He's been in a good place for a few weeks now, to be honest.

He maybe wouldn't have been on the bench as we were going to wait until Tuesday but Will Smallbone picked up a little bit of an injury away with Ireland. 

So Ross was the one I wanted to go to naturally and I thought he was brilliant when he came on.