Every word Southampton boss Martin said after Carabao Cup at Everton

A frustrating night but you get over the line, what impact can this have?

RM: I'm really proud of the players. My frustration is never with their intention, it's just missing moments where I feel like we could maybe play forward.

It's never anything other than that really. I understand what we're asking the players to do is so tough and they do it with so much courage and conviction.

I'm really happy. I don't feel frustrated. I feel really proud of the performance. We responded brilliantly to a setback which is what hurt us on Saturday.

We had a setback, missing the penalty and then the energy for 15 minutes was terrible and it cost us the game because nothing changed tactically in that game.

It lifted one team in terms of energy and spirit and it drained the other. We had a lot of young players on the pitch that will be better for that moment.

Sometimes you have to learn by feeling and having that bit of pain but tonight we had a setback and they responded brilliantly.

They stuck at it, they puffed the chest out and they were aggressive. The game looked how we wanted it to look. 

I wanted to play forward a little bit more at times but we're playing against a team that make it really difficult. They press well and they're compact.

Does it feel like it could be a big moment in the season?

RM: Yes, I hope so. We'll see at 5pm on Saturday but I feel like all you can ever ask is to analyse the performance from Saturday.

Try and learn from it, take something from it and what we learnt was actually for half an hour we were brilliant. The best performance of the season so far.

We looked very much like the team we wanted to look like. Then we have a disappointing moment and it completely derails us. 

Tonight we didn't, so we had a tough moment conceding and then they responded brilliantly so I think that's the learning. You grow from that and they did that tonight.

In the four games, we haven't had a result yet but I feel better about the Premier League than I did at the start of the season because of the moments we've had.

We've hurt ourselves a lot in the first four games and a lot of that is down to a bit of anxiety and a bit of fear of the Premier League.

Some of the guys going into it for the first time. Some of the guys being hurt by it last time. I feel like we're going to grow through that.

We just need that first result and once we get that I'm really excited about what the group is capable of achieving because we have a young, hungry group.

They are willing to do brilliant things and try and do the things we were asking them to do which is play with real aggression and courage all the time.

You live and die by the sword really and we want to try and look how we want to look no matter who we play against.

You have made 10 changes for this one and still progressed - a positive? 

RM: Yeah, the guys work hard together and we have a big group. A bit too big probably in an ideal world but we try and keep everyone motivated.

We train in a certain way that reflects what we want to do on a Saturday. It's all related to them and what they're going to do.

It's why a lot of the guys can step in tonight and play in the way that they did and it'll be great for them. A lot of guys played their first game for us.

Wee Man coming back and Max Cornet, Adam Lallana, he's just a brilliant, beautiful footballer and he helps the team with a lot of his voice so he'll be a big player for us.

Then more guys like Leslie and those guys, Charlie and Breezy, feeling it again and making sure they're ready to step in at any point. 

They have to push each other. They have to stay really hungry. They get on so well but they really compete as well and they push each other, and that's important.

Happy with six excellent penalties and a big save from Alex McCarthy?

RM: I think we did a lot of work on penalties at the end last season because of the play-offs.

We did a lot of research on it, about the approach to it and just reminded them a bit of that work really when we spoke before the penalties.

Dean has done a lot of work with Al and we practiced yesterday in case it went to penalties. Gilly and Colin were in charge of that and made sure everyone took one.

You still have to have the courage to step up and do it in front of a crowd that is roaring. So I'm really, really proud of them and I'm grateful to them for staying brave.

Special for McCarthy to mark his 150th appearance like that?

RM: Yeah, what a guy. He was brilliant tonight. He was amazing last season, at the end of last season. 

We wouldn't have done it without him for sure. Then he's been an amazing team-mate the way he's responded to losing his place to Aaron Ramsdale.

Rambo has come in and was excellent on Saturday. Al is first and foremost a brilliant human being and that helps. He puts the team first.

Then he comes in tonight and can perform like that. I thought he was great. We have a really strong goalkeeping department with Joe Lumley.

He's responded well to being out of the squad the last few games and he played in the last cup game so he would have been disappointed not to play.

They're brilliant and Dean Thornton has been working them hard and pushing them hard. Tonight he deserves this, I'm really pleased for Al.

He has a moment like that when the fans are cheering his name. The fans were amazing by the way, the amount of travel on a Tuesday night up here.

Could you have asked for a better contribution from Taylor Harwood-Bellis?

RM: I gave him the armband because I feel like he is a natural leader but has played with too much tension in the first few games because it's what you do.

I did the same when I got to the Premier League, you want it so badly for so long and you get there and it can hit you hard, quickly.

But he's going to be amazing and he had to come out of the team because he wasn't quite in the place he needs to be tonight. 

We'll help him massively. He was fantastic tonight, defensively, with the ball. Yeah, he's going to be top but sometimes it's not linear, right?

The path is difficult and you have some tough moments and how you respond to them will always define what you do and he's had a tough start. 

He can come in tonight and play like that because he's a proper character. He's a natural born leader with brilliant energy and brilliant talent.

Is Adam Lallana ready to start a Premier League game?

RM: I think tonight was always the plan to get him 45 minutes and I think on Saturday he showed what he's going to bring, and against Brentford.

He showed what he's going to bring tonight. I just love watching him play football. He is an amazing footballer. He's so graceful, elegant but aggressive.

An amazing mentality he has. He's going to be massive for us. He is off the pitch already and on the pitch he's going to have a big, big say.

I think he is ready to start. He's not ready to play 90 minutes but he's definitely ready to start an impact game for us. 

What were you and Matt Gill talking about on the pitch at the end there?

RM: I don't think I can tell you, mate. It wasn't about football. No, we were chatting about the game.

We were speaking about Saturday because of course that comes into your thinking straight away now. What's going to be important the next two days.

What team, what did you think about tonight. I guess what most managers and assistant managers would discuss. And then we spoke about your moustache.

Did you consider picking Armel Bella-Kotchap and if not, why not?

RM: Well I obviously didn't because he's not in the squad. I just answered the same in another interview. It's never personal. 

I'm paid to do the best job I can for Southampton Football Club. And if it doesn't go very well I will lose my job. So I then pick a team that I think is best to win. 

I pick a squad that I think is the best to win. And it really is that simple. So there's no personal fallout. 

We had honest conversations before the transfer window closed and after the transfer window closed. It's not ideal for him. 

We had a couple of moves fall through and now he trains with the rest of them. He trains really well. The same as Paul, the same as the other guys. 

Ronnie Edwards has not been in the squad. He's been really frustrated. Ryan Manning has been left at home and played 40 odd games for us last year. 

It's not easy to do that. We could talk about all of them guys but I feel like when we're here we should be talking about the guys that are here. And it really is that. 

It's about who I feel is best for the team and who I trust the most to put in a performance on the pitch and help the group. Tonight I decided that it wasn't those guys.

No minutes for Sam Amo-Ameyaw, how do you convince him he has a big part to play?

RM: By giving him every bit of energy he possibly can every single day in training. 

I think it's difficult for him because Tyler played so well. Max Cornet has come in. Adam Armstrong played 40 odd games at right wing last season. 

He's 18. He's already played a fair amount of minutes for us over the last season and a bit for his age. I think it's a lot compared to others. 

He trains with us every single day and he has to keep improving. He's a real talented player but he's physically not where Tyler is yet. 

He's not where Maxi is yet. So we just have to be a bit patient with him. He's a supreme talent and we love working with him. 

We're really excited and he'll be disappointed not to get on the pitch tonight. But again, I get paid to try and win a game of football.

Tonight I felt that it was a game for Tyler to come on with his physicality. We're playing against a team that are big, strong, physical. 

Hopefully it was the right decision. So Sam will be fine. We spent a lot of time working with him and a lot of conversations.

I actually get on really well with his agent which is not like me because I don't really get on well with them.

I've had a long relationship with him so he understands there's a long term plan with Sam. and we'll just keep assessing his role and his situation.

How do you not get too excited about the potential of Tyler Dibling?

RM: I want to be cautious of it because in this country we have a habit of building people up so early and then enjoying the fact that they don't quite reach their potential.

I think the biggest thing I can say is if he's playing it tells you what we feel about him at 18 years old. The stuff that he can do that we trust him with.

Tyler from now to looking back even three months ago is a very different person and the growth in him has been huge.

But like I said about Taylor, Taylor is the England Under-21s captain and he's had a tough start and at some point Tyler's progression will not just be linear.

There'll be some tough moments and we'll have to help him, nurture him and help him grow. We really demand of Tyler but we also give him a lot of love.

He is supremely talented and if he wants to keep listening and to keep growing and to keep improving, he will, in my opinion, play at a very, very top level.

But that's a long journey to that point. So he has to keep listening, he has to keep learning, he has to keep working, he has to keep building trust with his teammates. 

Of course, it's exciting to work with a player like that and to see the growth in him in this last year. It's been amazing.

He has to continue doing that and I feel it's one of the reasons we were brought to this football club is because of our ability to develop young talent.

And create assets for the club on the pitch and financially. Tyler could be one of the biggest assets they've ever had, for sure that we've ever had.